Tag Archive for family

The History of Wedding Rings – An Anniversary Post

The wedding ring remains one of the most iconic symbols of marriage today. The circle has always represented the unending cycle, an eternity of existence. In love, it symbolizes an endless affection. The symbolism may ring hollow in today’s seemingly impermanence of some marriages as people marry and un-marry as if following a trend, but for many, the ring’s symbolism is still something to aspire and hope for. It still gives meaning to the purpose of unity and endlessness in the love between couples.

There is, however, a segment of people who see the ring as an antiquated symbol of man’s dominance over woman and eschew the use of such a symbol in their relationship. It goes back to the times when women became ‘properties’ of men once the ring is placed on their fingers. Back then, only women wore rings. It is only in recent times that men started wearing rings too.

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Ambie Blogs

My daughter got me started blogging. Did you know that? When she was about 10, she started bugging me about putting up a website. Well heck, back then I barely knew how to navigate the internet much less putting up a website! So I started looking around and figuring out how to put up a website. Well back then, to actually host your own site was very expensive. They were reserved mostly for businesses who could afford them. When I was looking at ways to have a presence on the internet without having to pay for it, I ran across Geocities. Remember it?

But as I looked at it, I found it hard to understand how to put together a site. It would have required me to put in more time than I was willing to part with. Also, there were a bunch of porn sites on there! I think every porn site started on Geocities. I didn’t want to risk exposing my daughter to that. I’m glad they have since closed shop.

Then I found Blogger and the rest, as they say, is history. It was easy to use, I could actually understand the instructions, and we were up and blogging away in a matter of minutes. We started with one blog that we shared. That’s why it was called Jade-n-Mom. Then we branched out into more blogs and before I knew it, I had at least 4 blogs on Blogger!

But then we outgrew those too. We eventually bought our own domains and hosting it on our own shared server. My daughters now even have their own domains instead of a subdomain to my own. My daughter who got me started, Ambie, still blogs today. She’s gone through several blogs since she started and she talks about her growth in blogging in her about me page.

She’s been busy with college applications lately though so she has slowed down on her posting again. That’s alright though. That’s the good thing about blogging, you can take a hiatus and come back to it again, without any major consequences. That is, if you don’t care about page views and those kind of stuff. Right now, she has more to think about than blogging. She’s busy applying for colleges and scholarships and deciding what she would like to do in the future. She had at one time considered a healthcare career but it seems she is now leaning towards a business career. She also wants to keep up with her dancing and interest in journalism. So who knows. Follow her blog and she may eventually tell us about what she decides to do for the future.

The Dove Campaign For Beauty

This is a compensated review from BlogHer and Dove Self-Esteem
Dove Real Beauty

Every day is so wonderful
And suddenly, i saw debris
Now and then, I get insecure
From all the pain, I’m so ashamed

I am beautiful no matter what they say
Words can’t bring me down
I am beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can’t bring me down
So don’t you bring me down today

~Beautiful (song by Christina Aguilera)

My husband used to get upset when he would tell me how beautiful I am and I just roll my eyes and shake my head. See, I never learned to accept compliments graciously. Compliments made me feel uncomfortable and creepy, to tell the truth. The strange thing was, I didn’t think I looked too bad; I just didn’t get that others would see me as being more than the way I saw my self.

When I was growing up in the Philippines, my aunts used to bemoan that my skin was a little too brown and my nose a little too flat. Back then, they didn’t bother to whisper behind a child’s back either. They would just come right out and say it in front of me and to my face. They didn’t mean any harm, at least I don’t think they did, it was just a matter of fact for them. It was a way of making conversation.
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Nurtureshock by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman

The world of parenting is about to change.

By Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman
Publish Date: 9/3/2009
Price: $24.99/$29.99
ISBN: 9780446504126
Pages: 352

In a world of modern, involved, caring parents, why are so many kids aggressive and cruel? Where is intelligence hidden in the brain, and why does that matter? Why do cross-racial friendships decrease in schools that are more integrated? If 98% of kids think lying is morally wrong, then why do 98% of kids lie? What’s the single most important thing that helps infants learn language?

NurtureShock is a groundbreaking collaboration between award-winning science journalists Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman. They argue that when it comes to children, we’ve mistaken good intentions for good ideas. With impeccable storytelling and razor-sharp analysis, they demonstrate that many of modern society’s strategies for nurturing children are in fact backfiring–because key twists in the science have been overlooked.

Nothing like a parenting manual, the authors’ work is an insightful exploration of themes and issues that transcend children’s (and adults’) lives.

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Communicate with your Kids & Win a $200 Visa Card!


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The winner of the $200 Visa Gift Card is DG who answered the question in her blog, The Prestigiator:

How you keep the lines of communication open with your children as they grow older and gain more freedom?

Well, I don’t have kids but I can say from how I was raised: 1. adhere to a regular dinner time because good conversation takes place at the table over delicious meals, 2. don’t be too strict or judgmental because kids will close down -being a good listener is more important! and 3. share a few of your “secrets” (avoid TMI though) as well; show your kid you’re more than just a parent but were once their age and full of wonderment as well.

Thanks to my parents for always knowing how to talk to us without being preachy. I really heard everything you said and have taken it to heart. :)

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Post Theme: How you keep the lines of communication open with your children as they grow older and gain more freedom.

There is an old saying about children (well it was more commonly applied to men) being tied to their mother’s apron strings. Basically, it meant that they still need their mother and cannot think independently. Nowadays, that apron string is getting longer or has totally disappeared.

My daughters are in their teens now. The two older ones will be 17 and 18 next year and before you know it, they will be out on their own. The last couple of years they have been stretching the string quite taut. As parents, I think my husband and I have been very protective of them. They never rode the school bus, for instance. Even though it was inconvenient at times, we’d rather drive them to and pick them up from school daily than to trust their safety to strangers. One year, they were in three different schools and it seemed that all my husband and I did was drive them around all day!

When they got to high school their social life picked up a lot. They wanted to hang out with their friends more, they wanted to go to games, and dances and parties. We wanted to keep them home, in sight and safe but we knew that would be impossible. We realized it would be a battle we couldn’t win so instead, we loosened the leash. We thought about how it was when we were their age and how we snuck around behind our parent’s back and still managed to do all the things they forbade us to do. That’s not the kind of relationship we wanted with our daughters. We wanted them to be able to come to us for anything. We didn’t want them to ever feel like they had no one else to turn to. So we changed a few rules around our house. After a lot of talking, discussions and negotiations, we implemented some changes to our household. We slacked off on some of the old ones and either amended or got rid of others. Here’s a few of the things we did to keep the lines of communication with our daughters as they get older:

  1. School Transport – they are so used to use driving them now and have heard so many horror stories about riding the bus that they are perfectly happy to have us drive them to and from school. Besides, the time in the car is always great for talking and catching up. But they are also now of driving age so we are presently discussing getting a car for them to share and use to travel to and from school. We’re still ironing out the ground rules for this.
  2. Dating – We knew this was coming no matter how we tried to deny it. So the next best thing is to accept it. They both have had boyfriends although at the moment they are both ‘single’ according to their facebook profiles. The general rule about boyfriends is that they should be introduced to mom and dad. Boyfriends can come visit them at home and hang out but they can’t go to their boyfriend’s hose. They can go on dates provided mom and dad has their whole itinerary before they go out of the house. No overnight trips with boyfriends.
  3. Sleep Overs – my girls were never allowed to sleep over their friend’s homes when they were younger. It’s only after they got to high school that we finally allowed them to do this once in a while and only in homes of friends that we are familiar with. I drop them off at the home where they will be sleeping over and pick them up.
  4. Hanging out with friends – when they have the opportunity, we allow them to hang out with their friends, either outside the house (mall, restaurant, concert, etc) or in our house even on weekdays. BUT they have to maintain their grades. If their grades start slipping or they start missing homework, then the ‘hang out time’ gets cut out.
  5. Technology – they were not the kids who had cell phones and ipods and game boys in their younger years. They still aren’t now but we did get them cell phones when they started going out with friends and having more after-school activities. We have a standing rule that no matter where they are, no matter what time it is, they can call mom and dad to come and get them. If they want iPods, games or other gadgets, they have to earn the money to pay for them.
  6. Social Networks – while the MySpace horror stories used to scare us into letting them even have anything to do with social networking, we also realize that being online is part of their generation. It is part of their lives. So we jumped right in with them. They know that mom and dad are watching and I don’t hesitate to say something when I see them saying or doing things online that is improper or inapropriate. They also know that wherever they decide to socialize, mom and/or dad has to have access to their accounts. They also know that mom and dad probably won’t be checking much on them unless they have a good reason to. It’s a matter of trust.
  7. Chores – because we feel that cell phones are important for them to have and for us to be able to get in touch with them when we need to, we pay for their services. However, they also have to do more chores around the house. They are now young ladies and they are old enough to contribute to the household. Some of the chores they do: laundry, dish washing, sweeping the floor, cleaning bathrooms, cooking, dusting, and taking out the trash.

The bottom line on keeping the lines of communication open with our kids is, TALK. We talk a lot and often. Most importantly, as parents who tend to be on the overprotective side, TRY NOT TO JUDGE. Sometimes they just want to talk things out. They don’t always need our advice or opinion, they just need us to LISTEN. AND sometimes, even though we may disagree with some of their decisions, we have to trust that they have learned enough to be able to make the right decision for them.

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Family Rooms

This may sound weird when you’re single but when you have kids, especially young ones, bathrooms in public places take on added importance in your life. It becomes a deciding factor in where you go or how long you should stay. Call me neurotic, but when you have kids who immediately have to use the potty as soon as you get anywhere (sometimes before you even get there), it becomes very important that you have access to a clean restroom.

I’m glad my girls are older now and are more independent. I don’t have to worry as much about letting them go to the bathroom alone when we’re out and about but I’m afraid I’ve passed on my neuroses for bathrooms. They will not enter a public restrooms unless it’s clean. If it smells, they will rather hold ‘it’ than use the bathroom. You can forget it for some reason pest control has been overlooked because they will zoom out of anyplace so fast if they even see anything crawling. Actually, it doesn’t even have to be crawling. It can be dead in the corner and they will refuse to go in the room.

family restroomI’ve noticed an increase of Family Bathrooms in newer malls and public buildings and I am glad. These family rooms allow mom, dad and kids to use one large room together.

This alleviates mom from doing all the bathroom duties as it was in our case. Since we have daughters, it fell up to me to take them to the bathroom every time. I couldn’t have my husband take them to the men’s restroom after all. Can you just imagine little girls in the men’s bathroom? It’s not even funny. I’m always sympathetic when I see a lone dad urging his little girl into the ladies room by herself. It’s a helpless feeling when you can’t go in with your child. It’s not even a matter of safety, although that is certainly a big concern, depending on how tall they are, they can’t always reach the commode or the sink comfortably. Or they could be like my youngest daughter who used to be afraid of the noise the hand dryers make.

When you have to do diaper changes or just general kid mess clean up, family bathrooms are a godsend! They are usually equipped with a changing table and you just have more privacy to undress your child and get them cleaned up properly. Another neat feature of family bathrooms is the kid sized potty. This is great when you’re potty training because the kids can use the little potty just like when they’re at home and they don’t get traumatized about using the adult sized commode. My girls used to be scared the would fall in and I was always scared they would touch the sides or other parts they’re not supposed to have their little hands on.

I like family rooms and support all public places that have them. I wish they had more of them when my daughters were younger but I am glad they are now more widely available for families with young children.